If your brain is shaking, …


“Don’t let your struggle become your identity.” – Unknown

Why would you take a condition with regard to your psychological and emotional well being for granted? Mental Health has been an issue over the years. It’s no wonder that May, the Mental health awareness month was observed from way back from 1949 in the United States.

The state of one’s mind matters and plays a major role in their output. Here are some conditions that affect mood, thinking and behavior;

Clinical depression normally characterised by a sombre depressed mood. Often causes lack of interest in the things happening around.

Anxiety disorders making one over worry. Being filled with a lot of fear.

Dementia Often characterised by gradual reduction in mental capacity. In some cases there’s emotional instability, speech impairment and a general loss of motivation to do anything.

Bipolar Disorder A person regarded to be with this condition usually experiences moments of high energy and positive emotion followed by bouts of depression and high risk of inflicting self harm.

Attention deficit/ hyperactive disorder characterized with heavily acting impulsively.

Schizophrenia affects a person’s ability to think, feel or behave clearly.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.(OCD) Excessive thoughts/obsessions that lead to repetitive behaviors (compulsions).

Autism. (Development disorder)

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) Usually as a result of failure to get over a terrible situation. Common with eye witnesses of traumatic experience.

There’s a lot of conditions that may affect mental health and they all have triggers. Just like KARMA, or the law of physics, for every action, there’s equal but opposite reaction, things that happen to us also have an effect on us, especially on our mentality and emotions. However, we have control over these reactions; whether to let them consume us, or to become better people by overcoming the situation.

Poor mental health likewise has its triggers. Acknowledging the fact that you’re an addict to something is the first step to overcoming the addiction.

  • Childhood abuse
  • Trauma
  • Neglect
  • Social isolation or loneliness
  • Discrimination and stigma.

  • The above are some of the known triggers. Often, people are afraid of admittimg these triggers. We say “I feel terribly depressed but I do not even know why” because of various reasons.

    Some of us are too proud to admit that some situations have damaged us. Take an example of a young proud stylish person the ‘it-girl’ or ‘hottest guy’, the one that has a point to prove ‘y’all could never! Perioddtt’ , admitting the fact that they are heartbroken, have been dumped or whatever.

    Depression is real but are we ready to admit powerlessness and failure!? How easy is it for a father who is believed to be the bread winner of a home to take in the fact that he lives below the poverty line!? How easy is it for a rape and defilement victim to come out and admit that they have been sexually abused!? Think of the things that take you into depression however minor. Be it finances, education, health status, family, name it. Have you been able to come at peace with yourself and admit that for example, you are not your parent’s favorite child? Because of course, it is possible.

    Mental health is ageless. Everyone can be a victim straight from a child, evidently seen with the rising cases of child abuse and defilement. Of which for one to defile a child, there is another side to that story. In the study of criminal law call it intention. Intention deals with the state of mind of the person that I behind committing crime. But then you realize how unavoidable mental health is.

    Talk to someone. Let loose and be brutally honest with yourself. A problem shared is a problem half solved. We have one life on this earth, we are not like the cats that have nine. Rather than living and leading a miserable life, open up and let someone lighten your burden. Once I was angry at myself for over feeling and over loving to the extent that my happiness depended on this one person but the more I shared, the less scared I was. We all have trust issues in one way or another but venting to even a deaf person can be a relief. Talk about your problems so that the voices in your head don’t have the pleasure of turning you into whatever they see it fit.

    Be grateful. Look around yourself and notice how fortunate you are. A friend of mine used to say the worst is not yet the worst if you can say ‘this is the worst’. Notice every opportunity right from life to whatever.

    Be kind to yourself. Remember you do not have power over the things that happen to you but you have absolute power over how you react to what happens to you.

    Keep a positive attitude and surround yourself with positivity. Energy is contagious! Positive life, positive vibes. Surround yourself with what you want to be. You want to win, surround yourself with a winning environment. Be the winning person and attract winners.

    Know your triggers, embrace them, deal with them and don’t let them deal with you.

    Acceptance. Accept yourself for you. A fact that many people take for granted is that you are beautiful. All those curves and edges are rightly placed. Feel good about them so much that you make me wish I had them. There’s a lame man I know, Mayor of Nakawa, Kampala Uganda, Ronald Nsubuga Balimwezo, he can make a man wish he was lame. Be that passionate about everything about you.



    I could go on and on about mental health because I am all about empowerment and positivity. And I think I have said a lot, but trust me there’s much more you can find out to yourself. What you have read is but a drop in the ocean.

    Do not let your struggle become your identity.
    I write this on 31st May, 2020. A time when the world is fighting COVID-19 pandemic. A racist time when George Floyd cries out “I can’t breath” and is still killed. There’s so much happening. Our mental health is at stake. Let’s smile to that stranger and keep moving.

    Written with lots of love.

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    Get into the habit of celebrating life

    Celebrating life does not necessarily mean everything is going on perfectly. It simply means you are appreciating your journey and being proud of each step taken.

    Often we get caught up with the things of this world. We get caught up with trying to make people happy, making sure we are successful, keeping up with the standards that we’ve probably set and when we do not succeed at it, we beat ourselves up.

    You do not need to have achieved a great deal in order to celebrate. You might actually never achieve some of the goals that you think define you. Celebrating life on the other hand pushes you a step further. You’ll then look forward to seeing what way you’ll appreciate yourself once youve achieved goals. There’s no such thing as failure. Anyone who attempts to try has already made a step so regardless of whether the plans worked through or not, reward yourself, celebrate that step. Do not wait for birthdays, graduation, wedding, anniversaries, name it. Celebrate now. This life is one, and its a short one.

    THE RIGHT AGE TO DATE.

    An adult caterpillar.

    I’d lie if I said I knew the right age to date. But let me start from the roots.

    As a toddler with a little mind, I always fancied having a 2-digit age. Imagine being 1 and 0! That’d be a full decade of years lived! For me, that was a stept to being termed as an adult. So I looked up to being 10.

    Then 10 came…and I thought to myself, “Maybe being a teenager would feel better”. I felt good in 10. However I longed to feel legally free. Free to give my opinions on issues.(which I always did…at least I didnt have any remorse while I gave my views as much as I do now). 10 was beautifully innocent. 10 was ‘daddy’s girl’ season at its peak. I regret nothing about my young self. Still had the questions of; should I get a crush now!? Can I tell my ‘bestie’ and my ‘half bestie’ about it!? And we know at around that age, we get nicknames for our crushes. Mine was ‘rainbow'(I don’t even remember what the boy looks like now…nothing about him…not even his name. Lol)

    So the teenage years smoothed it. I was growing. It didn’t hit me until I was now supposed to make decisions on my own. Its characteristic of females to be indecisive(a friend of mine always says), its not a thing to be proud of however… My first biggest decision was concerned with the subjects to offer at my Ordinary level(s3 and s4), and so I had to cross to different subjects inbetween there. Another issue I had was on whether or not I should date. I was a teenager. Feelings around that stage are at work…emotions…physically mentally… And all those ..ally(s) you might want to add.. But I still did not date…Maybe when I make 18 and I am officially an adult…

    18 hit. I was scared. I still am… But I read somewhere. …do it scared but do it anyway…

    Did I date, or did I not!? I’ll probably write some more on another cold night that will spark my soul.

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