“Don’t let your struggle become your identity.” – Unknown
Why would you take a condition with regard to your psychological and emotional well being for granted? Mental Health has been an issue over the years. It’s no wonder that May, the Mental health awareness month was observed from way back from 1949 in the United States.
The state of one’s mind matters and plays a major role in their output. Here are some conditions that affect mood, thinking and behavior;
Clinical depression normally characterised by a sombre depressed mood. Often causes lack of interest in the things happening around.
Anxiety disorders making one over worry. Being filled with a lot of fear.
Dementia Often characterised by gradual reduction in mental capacity. In some cases there’s emotional instability, speech impairment and a general loss of motivation to do anything.
Bipolar Disorder A person regarded to be with this condition usually experiences moments of high energy and positive emotion followed by bouts of depression and high risk of inflicting self harm.
Attention deficit/ hyperactive disorder characterized with heavily acting impulsively.
Schizophrenia affects a person’s ability to think, feel or behave clearly.
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.(OCD) Excessive thoughts/obsessions that lead to repetitive behaviors (compulsions).
Autism. (Development disorder)
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) Usually as a result of failure to get over a terrible situation. Common with eye witnesses of traumatic experience.
There’s a lot of conditions that may affect mental health and they all have triggers. Just like KARMA, or the law of physics, for every action, there’s equal but opposite reaction, things that happen to us also have an effect on us, especially on our mentality and emotions. However, we have control over these reactions; whether to let them consume us, or to become better people by overcoming the situation.
Poor mental health likewise has its triggers. Acknowledging the fact that you’re an addict to something is the first step to overcoming the addiction.
The above are some of the known triggers. Often, people are afraid of admittimg these triggers. We say “I feel terribly depressed but I do not even know why” because of various reasons.
Some of us are too proud to admit that some situations have damaged us. Take an example of a young proud stylish person the ‘it-girl’ or ‘hottest guy’, the one that has a point to prove ‘y’all could never! Perioddtt’ , admitting the fact that they are heartbroken, have been dumped or whatever.
Depression is real but are we ready to admit powerlessness and failure!? How easy is it for a father who is believed to be the bread winner of a home to take in the fact that he lives below the poverty line!? How easy is it for a rape and defilement victim to come out and admit that they have been sexually abused!? Think of the things that take you into depression however minor. Be it finances, education, health status, family, name it. Have you been able to come at peace with yourself and admit that for example, you are not your parent’s favorite child? Because of course, it is possible.
Mental health is ageless. Everyone can be a victim straight from a child, evidently seen with the rising cases of child abuse and defilement. Of which for one to defile a child, there is another side to that story. In the study of criminal law call it intention. Intention deals with the state of mind of the person that I behind committing crime. But then you realize how unavoidable mental health is.
Talk to someone. Let loose and be brutally honest with yourself. A problem shared is a problem half solved. We have one life on this earth, we are not like the cats that have nine. Rather than living and leading a miserable life, open up and let someone lighten your burden. Once I was angry at myself for over feeling and over loving to the extent that my happiness depended on this one person but the more I shared, the less scared I was. We all have trust issues in one way or another but venting to even a deaf person can be a relief. Talk about your problems so that the voices in your head don’t have the pleasure of turning you into whatever they see it fit.
Be grateful. Look around yourself and notice how fortunate you are. A friend of mine used to say the worst is not yet the worst if you can say ‘this is the worst’. Notice every opportunity right from life to whatever.
Be kind to yourself. Remember you do not have power over the things that happen to you but you have absolute power over how you react to what happens to you.
Keep a positive attitude and surround yourself with positivity. Energy is contagious! Positive life, positive vibes. Surround yourself with what you want to be. You want to win, surround yourself with a winning environment. Be the winning person and attract winners.
Know your triggers, embrace them, deal with them and don’t let them deal with you.
Acceptance. Accept yourself for you. A fact that many people take for granted is that you are beautiful. All those curves and edges are rightly placed. Feel good about them so much that you make me wish I had them. There’s a lame man I know, Mayor of Nakawa, Kampala Uganda, Ronald Nsubuga Balimwezo, he can make a man wish he was lame. Be that passionate about everything about you.
I could go on and on about mental health because I am all about empowerment and positivity. And I think I have said a lot, but trust me there’s much more you can find out to yourself. What you have read is but a drop in the ocean.
Do not let your struggle become your identity.
I write this on 31st May, 2020. A time when the world is fighting COVID-19 pandemic. A racist time when George Floyd cries out “I can’t breath” and is still killed. There’s so much happening. Our mental health is at stake. Let’s smile to that stranger and keep moving.
Written with lots of love.